Wednesday, February 15, 2006

Valentine's Day Irony

I am not a big fan of Valentine's day. On the years (which are few and far), which I care to remember this day, I made sarcastic remarks about the serious faced people who rehearsed their proposal/I-love-you speeches. I made fun of the friend who listened to songs from Bon Jovi to Jeans' "anbe anbe" for four years thinking about this 1 girl. Every year he planned to propose on this very day to her (I have no idea why this day of all days would make her say 'yes') and never did propose for 4 years. Among the days I didn't care for, Valentine's day was the day I didn't care for the most. It beats father's day and mother's day by 2X times. "Friendship day" is another abnoxious day that comes close to V.Day but the sheer volume of idiots, I got to see on Feb 14, in college, beats every other "day".

So at 12:00 PM Mid Night on Feb 13th, My wife surprised me with a present that jolted me out of my wits. She bought a jar, wrote 365 quotes from the internet, put it in a word doc, printed it out, cut them into 365 separate fortune cookie kind of separate papers, folded them and put them in a jar, attached a balloon to the jar and gave it to me. For a moment - I thought my wedding day had come and I forgot & goofed up. Then the whole Valentine's day extravaganza was brought to my attention. I have to admit the gift was sweet and it is really a work of genuine love. But I couldn't help looking at the irony of it all. Here was I being a recepient of Valentine day gift. This made me think of a possible future where I might be given "fathers day" kind of gifts. This scared me like crazy. I have already been abused with 'friendship day' cards. I was kind enough not to tell those friends "what the hell is this crap for", which btw was exactly the question my dear friend logic ramani asked my brother, when my bro sent him a 'friendship day' mail.

But I forsee a future where even cynisism specialists like 'logic ramani' will be stuck down by a Valentine's Day present. And he'll not know what to say. Genuine love and affection is so infectious. Watching a person pour so much time and effort for a dork like me would break any cynical person. Maybe thats why these 'days' are so popular in India nowadays. It makes me guilty while thinking back of all those years, I spent making fun of the hopeless romantics. Time is a great leveller. I think this is God's way of cutting me down to size. Maybe I am being told not to make fun of others. Of course in those days, I did not respect their feelings, it was very hard to. I remember the friend I mentioned above (lets call him JB) trying to talk to a girl on this day. So JB starts talking to her in complicated English (peter englipish). There is a big 'bodhi tree' in our college under which this guy caught this girl (who was 1 year our junior) and was talking to her. A bunch of friends and I were some distance away and 1 guy called Krishna shouted "dei JB! hurry up da! Its time for our English tuition". JB was so embarassed that he must've wished for earth to open up and eat him. JB does not know that today, Krishna is also a romantic Valentine dude accepting and giving zillion V.Day gifts. So all the smart ass, cynical sarcastic people out there - watch out!

Note: A couple of people told me that in the recent past, I was 'losing it'. This shamelessly sentimental blog could be a reflection of that.

20 comments:

Nilu said...

Boy! your wife is jobless.

Anonymous said...

And Nilu, you are a "recursive hypocrite" waiting to be cut down to size by god.

[It not any news for people who follow Nilu's blog just out of awe]

Zero said...

This made me think of a possible future where I might be given "fathers day" kind of gifts.

Oh, the sheer chord this line strikes with me!

hema said...

Hi,

Nice post. Can relate to how you feel. I often used to think these days are just hypes for card and flower business companies to promote sales until i received flowers and card from my hubby. It kind of makes me feel quite guilty that i hadnt reciprocated the same in the initial years. However this year i told him straight away, when we both know we love each other, is there a necessity to be holding on to these cards or flowers kinds (although sounds too rude, trust me i didnt quite put it this way :) ). It did turn out that we didnt buy those things but instead both of us baked a cake and had some good Indian delicacies for a candle light dinner at home on 14th night. Well, it all depends on how you see it i guess.

Anonymous said...

hi,

By any chance, was that 'bodhi tree' in front of 'workshop' ?

Wanted to know which college it was.

Velakkam said...

bodhi tree was in front of canteen..on the way to 1st year block

Casement said...

One of my friends had her Vday wish designed this way - "Assuming you are not Pro- RSS, I wish you Happy V day!":))

Hawkeye said...

u know..its logically wrong to assume that v.day haters can only be pro-RSS. i hated these 'days' b4 i knew the existence of RSS

Harish said...

A couple of people told me that in the recent past, I was 'losing it'. This shamelessly sentimental blog could be a reflection of that.

make that 3! :P

Casement said...

Agreed:) But the reverse is logical - All Pro-RSS are Vday haters.

anantha said...

Hawkeye: Your brother is the classic loosu payyan! :D
Btw, you forgot to mention about all those gals, who (after receiving V-Day cards) run to their "brathers" for moral support and the "brathers" make sure the prospective romeo would have to be supported by two more legs from the next day onwards. The crap that people have to put up with for crap!
Btw, Nilu sollaradha yaarum madhikka vendam, just in case, someone wants to take him seriously. Avanukku poramai!

Hawkeye said...

2 things

1) I am pretty sure even pro-RSS people give/receive 'day' cards/gifts. but it could be done secretly like the way karunanidhi would secretly visit churches (after claiming he is an atheist)

2) the 'brathers' that anti talked about are actual waiting for the 'oosi gaaji' chance. theyy are making sure the so-call 'sistaars' are well protected until a vulnerable moment comes when they can sweep in.

thank god! i am out of this stupid 'brather' 'thangachi' stage of life. it sux.

Casement said...

"thank god! i am out of this stupid 'brather' 'thangachi' stage of life. it sux."

So u mean to say that at some point in life, uve been there! Make this the content of ur next post and tell us how many thangachis u saved:)

The Desi Nole said...

Damn, Women always have this way of getting one up on you. That should not be the case in the relationship, but you know what I mean. When we expect them to do nothing, they come up with something really awesome. Good luck trying to match that gift.

On another note,

what the hell is this crap for", which btw was exactly the question my dear friend logic ramani asked my brother, when my bro sent him a 'friendship day' mail.


LOL. Machi, you should go return your brother from the store you got him at and ask for a refund or an exchange.

Hawkeye said...

casement,

i meant being in a place where i had to see all this. i never had this crappy, make-do, instant thangachi's .

completely hated the concept.

WA said...

your wife spent all that time and effort on you, after the masala dosai saga?

anantha said...

Hawkeye: I actually meant real life thangachis going running, shedding tears, to their "brathers" because someone gave them a Valentine's card! The "brathers" go "Edura vandiya" immediately! :p

Suresh Ramani said...

LOL ..

well, times change. while I still believe that if you share a feeling throughout the year, no point in reserving a day to highlight it, but I have certainly learnt to play along with people who do believe in the sentiment.

hamsini said...

Awwww...Harini's so sweet.:D

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