- Coffee should not be reheated on and on from morning 5:00 AM until the last person has had coffee at 8:00 AM. Coffee once prepared should not be reheated. This is the primary reason why marriage coffee sucks.
- The people serving in the dining room must be neatly dressed. Nobody should serve without wearing a shirt. Should wear plastic gloves. People who have cold and are pulling back phlegm from their noses shouldn't be allowed inside the kitchen.
- Ghee should be new, good and should not smell. Otherwise it should not be served at all
- Rice should not be overly watery or over dry.
- People serving should not be indiffierent, rude and arrogant. They are part of the hospitality group.
- It is okay if more food is served and is wasted than people wanting food and no food is available.
- Having gimmics and special effects like girl and boy flying to America in some fancy car. Girls photo in Boy's heart and vice versa, Boy opening his Blazer and girl appearing in his pocket - All this nonsense is best avoided. The couple look like a bunch of buffoons 10 years later.
- The videographer should not be allowed into the dining room. Watching other people eat is not a pleasant sight. Capturing that in video and viewing 'Mani' periappa attacking the Jangiri while rice particles continue to spill out of his mouth is not exactly archive footage material. Infact watching somebody eating and watching somebody shitting is not much different.
- The videographer's job is to capture the important parts without ordering everybody around. The video surrounds the marriage. Not the other way around.
- Having 2 people who can identify relatives and welcome them is important. Those 2 people are difficult to find as they do not want to miss the function.
- Use a Mike to announce whats happening in the stage above. For example - announce the name of the girl's uncle who is giving some veshti etc. It helps everybody know whats going on.
- Take a mike and announce to the audience certain conduct related instructions. Tell them when the marriage is official over (It is NOT over when the boy ties the mangal sutra). And as to when the visitors can approach the bride and groom to shake hands and deposit the gift.
- For visiting people - It is INCORRECT to go and shake hands with the couple whenYOU think the marriage is over. Some people are particular that the rules need to be followed and ceremony is conducted properly. Respect that regardless of your own personal beliefs. That you have 4 other marriages to cover does not allow you to pause the marriage proceedings and talk to the groom. This is where the mike comes in handy.
I highly recommend the MRC Nagar Ramanathan Chettiyar Hall. It is one of the best Marriage Halls I have ever seen.