Wednesday, July 23, 2008

Learning & Experiencing - I

Some people like to be wished on the Birthdays and Wedding days. They like to be King/Queen for a day. Feel special. When people are growing-up they realize that such expectation usually leads to angst. Unless one is an actor who celebrates 5 birthdays/year or a politician, one doesn't get wished by tons of people. So they either stop expecting wishes or try and solve the problem.

The people who try and solve the problem, solve it by going on a wishing spree. They wish all their friends, relatives, and host of unknown people on wedding/birth day kind of occasions. These are the people who diligently collect wedding/birth day information from all arbit people they meet and wish them promptly. They are best at remembering occasions of "other people". This category of people get disappointed and hurt the most when all of the population they so diligently wish every year, don't ever wish back.

What they don't realize is that - in reality - when they call and wish this arbit person, the arbit person does not feel grateful and does not immediately make it a point to do the return-wish next year onwards. The arbitrary person, who is still young and unaware of the ways of life, usually gets filled up with disproportionate sense of self-importance. Arbit person feels that he is being wished because he is important and special and that his birthday wisher is not important and not special. As a result, the Arbit person does not see a need in doing the return-wish routine for some one lower in the hierarchy. That is until Arbit person suddenly realizes that his wishing population has dramatically dwindled. The arbit person then dons the role of the manical wisher and wishes tons of people to try and regain his wishing population until he feels disproportionately self-important again. And the cycle continues.

13 comments:

Arun Sundar said...

Visu padam'na romba pidikkumo?!

Anupadmaja said...

He he.

Although sometimes, the disproportionate self importance is non-existant. The person X being wished accepts the grandeur and the wish enthusiastically just to be polite, its not really important to them. But the "lovely" wisher assumes the same is very important to person X and so expects great returns then onwards.

And yeah, this is true not just for birthdays.

Anu, over enthusiastically shouts: "Hawkeyeeeeeee Advanced birthday wishesss!"

MLC said...

is yr b'day comin up? who r u rite now? the arbit one or the othr;-)?

sunshine said...

one of those facts of life eh? or another 'hallmark-created-expectation'?

Sudipta Chatterjee said...

So were you the king or the arbit person recently? :)

I think I ought to say "Happy Birthday"!

Anonymous said...

Arun ! lol

R K said...

Stop giving globe and come to the point...want a happy b'day or happy anniversary?

bombay dosti said...

Oh my god!!!!!
What a cynic!!!
Atleast this used to work while i was in school. Dont know about birthdays but it used to work with New years as there is no date to remember;-) The year i send the cards I would receive many... hahah ..its a cute world

WA said...

Hmmmm I am a lil bit lost. Happy Birthday?

Anonymous said...

am I the only person in the world who wishes other people would just forget my b'day and I can go through the day without the fear of anyone greeting me???

I breathe a sigh of relief the next morning when the ordeal is over.

The only people whom I care to talk to that day about the "event" is the people who went to a lot of trouble to er... produce me.



jm

Sriram said...

Birthdays are meaningless after school. I mean +2. After that it is just a cruel reminder of another year gone waste.

Sriram said...

jm, naanum un katchi dhaan.

Anonymous said...

What an irritation!!! Happy B'day, anniversary, the-day-u-took-bath, the-day-u-picked-nose... Come on, assuming we live 60 years, if we celebrate something 60 times, 30 times or more than handful-of-times, we are fool. The expectation of the wisher on the wishee to be happy and enthu about the day... God! it gives me creeps. I really would like my wishing population dwindle to 0 as I don't really wish any of them. I would like them not to remind me of any of the days that is supposedly important to me...