Sunday, October 25, 2009

The Farex Wars

There is a moment in parenting life when parents try and feed food to the infant. And we are talking about a human being which has lived on this planet only for very few months. It probably does not even know that it has fingers, legs and a mouth. It has no case history or assessment of the reputation of its parents. This infant, at this stage, decides that its parents are wrong. Thats simply it. It turns its face the other way and refuses food. In effect it is telling the parents; "you are wrong. you don't know stuff. I know better and I am saying I don't want this food". This is the beginning of several decades long Farex wars that happens between a parent and a child. This is the first foray and a harbinger of many such things to come.

The parents and child are locked in a tussle on a variety of subjects: school, marks, sports, lunch, breakfast, dinner, tiffin, mid-tiffin, special dinner, going to cinema, not going to cinema, talking to relatives, paying respect to elders, religion, diet, weight, height, color of finger nails, slipper choice, dress choice, boyfriend, girlfriends, friends, marriage, work, spending money, choice of sofa, having children, naming the children, shashti-abhda-poorthi, booking cook for shashti-abdha-poorthi, sadha-abhishekam, booking cook for sadha-abishekam, driving scooter after 80 years, travelling in second class, travelling, not travelling, booking tickets to America, staying in America for 6 months, old age home, will, and finally love.

Here are two germ-sized people standing on a rock of dust hurling through space, locked in a tremendous tussle. A long line of ancestors are standing in line trying to push upwards and downwards. They are standing with arms locked trying to push the other and the other won't budge. Yet there is love. Like a rough and sturdy coconut cover that wraps around its tender kernel, the farex wars wraps itself around the purest love in the world.

14 comments:

Sowmya Srikrishnan said...

Boyfriend-ku mattum (s) illayo! Romba dhaan nambikkai vechirukkeenga.

Hawkeye said...

ivalavu unnippa gavanippeengannu edhirpaakalai. I am stunned. Was not intentional by any means.

Gradwolf said...

Haha you missed poonal in that list.

Venkat said...

Hawkeye - pon kozhande dane ?
the missing (s) was for a reason :)

I said...

Very soon, this is will become a Daddy blog.

vigneshjvn said...

Your description of the parents-child tussle reminds me of that X-box ad. Life is short, love as much!

And the boyfriend/girlfriends was the first thing I noticed!

vigneshjvn said...

D'oh! Love as much as you can is what I meant. Happy fathering!

Alan Smithee said...

Not listening to parents is a sign of healthy mental development.

Anonymous said...

I think the reference to "color of finger nails" gave it away that it's a girl :-)

SathyaRam said...

Brilliant... particularly the way you ended it.

Anonymous said...

enna ba idhu? semma olaral..
idhukku murungakka (blog & veggie!) evalavo better...


- indolent

Aakarsh said...

Hi!

I am a regular visitor to your blog or rather, to your old posts on music, raagas, ilaiyaraaja. I think i read most of them.I came across a beautiful Dharmavathi number today and i remembered your post on that raaga. I would like to send that song to you and would want to know your thoughts on it. Can you send me your email address please.
Thanks

Sreekrishnan said...

I remember Einstein's theory on time where the time is repetitive. The events happen over and over again. anyways ..

i came here expecting something about David Shepherd !

Rastafari said...

A post on "This Is It" please. Mandatory